Don't ask don't get

Often when I find myself stuck trying to make progress on a coding task, I wrestle with it on my own for longer than I should do. Then I "give in" and try to find a person that can help.
The magic tends to happen in the process of formulating the question; the journey of structuring my frustration into a clear context, expected outcome vs. actual outcome with an attempt to reason why I'm not getting the desired result. Stepping through that sequence frequently unearths the flaw / inconsistency in my logic and/or grasp of the premise that usually steers me onto a better course of action to arrive at a solution. Sometimes it happens before I've even finished or sent / published the message. More often than not, the aha moment arrives just as soon as I've "exposed" my vulnerability much to the horror of my toxic superego.

Of course, there shouldn't be any shame in seeking a better understanding but it's hard to squash such ingrained emotional patterns. Sometimes the reluctance to be open about needing help is driven by sheer stubbornness and other times it's because the topic is more sensitive, perhaps involving other people or privileged information. Whatever the reason, the result is that this pattern of being stuck down a rabbit hole of behaviour seems to repeat across many parts of life.

Consequently, the opportunity to profit from just the journey of articulating your need / desires to an external party repeats itself in many parts of life too.
Business owners forced to reconcile their budget for the tax collector can unearth opportunities for savings. Patients explaining their symptoms, history, and health-related lifestyle choices to medical staff tend to spot the root causes before any treatment begins.

In a most typical privacy-sensitive example, I suspect most families and households would benefit from a strategy & management consultant-style analysis and appraisal of how they run their day-to-day. Or at least from preparing an RFP for such a service even if there's no appropriate vendor to execute. What would you want to achieve? Spotting opportunities to eliminate wasted time, optimise usage of physical space, save money, find more energy for desired activities and social engagements?

There's growing promise in the rising utility of autonomous AI services to better distribute access to this kind of bespoke personal assistant service. Outsourcing specific chores like financial and calendar management have been reserved for those that could afford to pay another human to handle them, but startups are rushing to lower that cost barrier using specialised AI agents.

Meanwhile, regardless of your access to a bespoke domestic concierge, you should go through the motions of actually describing what you would want help with and include the context that would be required to solve those needs. I.e. putting yourself in the shoes of if you were going to be your own all-access personal assistant after meeting yourself / your family for the first time.
Just the act of doing it will likely surface fresh ideas and quick wins, ultimately shortening the list of what you're really 'stuck' on. Whatever is left over is likely great fuel to start assessing how useful the current cohort of AI-driven assistants can be for you.